How do you see yourself? Which lens are you using?
It feels like you’re on the sidelines of life – the last kid picked to play on the team – an after-thought.
Nobody seems to see you or hear you.
And making friends as an adult seems impossible. Where do people even meet?
Plus, when you meet them, it’s like everyone is so EXTRA, too much drama. It feels safer to stay home, listen to your sad girl Spotify playlists, and retreat into the background.
Except it feels really lonely.
The “good” bad girl
Somehow, you always seem to get into the wrong kinds of relationships with the wrong people.
You crave a little excitement but not too much. You just want to feel something – so you can feel like a person again.
When Brad plays the “f*ck boy” and doesn’t reply to your texts after texting you 24/7, you feel you’re going nuts. And this seems to keep happening, even though you promise yourself this is the last time.
It’s like you’re a magnet for these types. It’s fun – until it isn’t.
Hit the gym, hit the books, climb the career ladder, smash that patriarchy – except you feel you’re going to hit the wall.
Something is going to slip through the cracks – you can feel it. And it feels like it’s going to be catastrophic.
So, now you wake up in a state of perpetual anxiety.
The people pleaser
Checking in with your family, your friends, your boss – what do they need?
Homeschooling, working from home, Instacarting the groceries, ZOOMs ad infinitum. You’re so good at managing everyone’s schedules and needs you should be an air traffic controller.
And if you don’t do it all, it’s like nobody else can function.
Self-care? Yeah, right. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
About the best you can manage is #winetime and passing out on the sofa at the end of the day. This is living.
From the outside, it looks like you’ve got everything together.
In your soul, you want to follow your own path, create, innovate, and inspire. But you’re trapped.
Cultural, familial, and social structures make the path hard to see; and things that happened in your life make the trail hard to follow. It feels like you’re going in circles, and you can hardly remember what it feels like to be inspired and excited about life.
High-stress levels lead to anxiety and exhaustion – it’s all you can do to keep it together, and you’re petrified of dropping the ball, of something falling through the cracks. You’re barely keeping your head above water.
You have a deep knowledge that change needs to happen; you’re actually quite desperate for it. But how?
It’s been so hard to connect with yourself. You don’t know where to begin.
It’s time to change lenses.
Stop living everyone else’s fantasy of who you need to be.
You didn’t sign up for any of this. This isn’t what you thought your life would be. Do you really have to resign yourself to this?
It’s hard when you do not know what you even want. You just know it’s not this.
Be your own biggest fangirl.
What would it be like not to beat yourself up for every imperfection? What would it feel like to unburden years of expectations that have made it so hard even to know what it is you want out of life?
Can you imagine what it would be like to reconnect with yourself, your dreams, your desires?
How would it be for someone to hear you for once? Imagine how good it would feel to unload some of your burdens and untangle your worries with someone kind, nonjudgmental, and compassionate. Someone you can be you with.
I can help you.
Working with me, you’ll learn how to manage your stresses better and navigate the day-to-day challenges of your life. You’ll gain perspective on the past and clarity on the present – which will help you create a future you can feel excited about.
We’ll work together to reignite the spark of creativity, meaning, and purpose so that you can live the life you are meant to live.
Let’s unpack that baggage and kick it to the curb so that you can live life on your own terms.
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